A Definition of Over-Thinking

A teacher of mine and of many, Stephen Gilligan, once said, “Over- thinking is holding your breath and clenching all of your muscles…” Have you ever tried to do anything at all when you are holding your breath and clenching Read more

When What If Keeps You Up at Night

If I were King of the World the phrase “WHAT-IF” would be stricken from all languages.  People would be banned from uttering these overwhelmingly poisonous words.  What-Iffing is a practice that is extraordinarily common in our society. In my work Read more

The Good Problem (update)

People with the Good Problem (good problemers) unwittingly hide behind the belief that they will be hurting the feelings of another person if they speak their mind in a real, genuine way or say no to a request to help. Read more

Do you have The Good Problem?

The Good Problem consists of three characteristics: Only good people can contract it. It is based on an irrational belief that you must take care of everyone else FIRST, be approved of and liked by any and all people, and Read more

Who is Judging Who?

Do you believe that other people are judging you? Many clients report to me that they experience heightened anxiety in social situations, at the gym, walking down the street, making a presentation at work, or going out on a date, Read more

Communication Breakdown

90% of all communication is everything but the content of the words. People are always communicating, in fact, people can not NOT communicate. How many different ways can you say hello to someone? Remember how you ran into the guy Read more

The Myth of the Control Freak

Do you consider yourself, or do others label you as a control freak?   Many clients over the years have announced to me that they are major control freaks.  They consider their micromanaging of relationships, responsibilities, and of even fun to Read more

The Guilt Formula

Guilt = What do I resent? Expression>Ingestion of Feelings. (G=RSMT X EXP>IOF). Whenever you are feeling guilty ask yourself the following question, “What do I resent?” Guilt is typically experienced when the actual emotion you are feeling is being denied Read more

Who is Milton H. Erickson, M.D.?

Milton Hyland Erickson, (5 December 1901– 25 March 1980) was an American psychiatrist specializing in medical hypnosis and family therapy. He was the founder of the American Society for Clinical Hypnosis.  He is well known for his approach to the unconscious mind Read more