The Bermuda Triangle of Anxiety Starring Self-Criticism
Anxiety creates many symptoms, both psychological and physiological. High blood pressure, irritable bowl syndrome, insomnia, obsessive worrying, and irrational thinking are but a few of the problems created and produced by anxiety.
The Big Three of Peak Performance
Joe teaches athletes the Big Three of Peak Performance: Extreme Self-Support through internal strength and external support from family, coaches, and teammates; a Personal History of Success by magnifying past peak performances; and Future Memories of Success by focusing on what it will feel like when they succeed.
The Toxic Three of Poor Performance
By mastering the Big Three of Peak Performance, athletes dissolve the Toxic Three of Poor Performance: self-criticism driven by negative self-talk, why-ning that fixates on past mistakes, and what-ifing that projects fear onto future outcomes.
The Guilt Formula
By mastering the Big Three of Peak Performance, athletes dissolve the Toxic Three of Poor Performance: self-criticism driven by negative self-talk, why-ning that fixates on past mistakes, and what-ifing that projects fear onto future outcomes.
Myth of the Control Freak
Do you consider yourself, or do others label you as a control freak? Many clients over the years have announced to me that they are major control freaks. They consider their micromanaging of relationships, responsibilities, and of even fun to be something of an unbreakable habit.
Communication Breakdown
90% of all communication is everything but the content of the words. People are always communicating, in fact, people can not NOT communicate. How many different ways can you say hello to someone? Remember how you ran into the guy who you had a falling out with years ago or when you bumped into to your friends ex-husband who you despised.
Who is Judging Who?
Do you believe that other people are judging you? Many clients report to me that they experience heightened anxiety in social situations, at the gym, walking down the street, making a presentation at work, or going out on a date, to name just a few examples. Their ironclad assumption is that other people are negatively analyzing, critiquing, and judging their behavior, appearance, and overall presentation to the world.
Do you have The Good Problem?
Do you have trouble saying no when asked to help someone? Do you accept invitations because you don’t want to hurt another person’s feelings or perhaps because you want that person to like you? How are you with receiving compliments or gifts? Do you readily accept the compliment/gift or is there always a qualifier, like, “Oh this sweater, I really need to update my wardrobe…” or “You shouldn’t have spent this much money on me, why did you do that?”
When What If Keeps You Up at Night
If I were King of the World the phrase “WHAT-IF” would be stricken from all languages. People would be banned from uttering these overwhelmingly poisonous words. What-Iffing is a practice that is extraordinarily common in our society. In my work What-If is identified as a primary symptom of anxiety. What-If is a hit man for anxiety, a sadistic pied piper that leads people into a toxic waste dump of symptomology.